We meet an infinite amount of people in this world, some only for a brief moment, and some who come into our lives to stay.
These are the people who surround us, who affect our emotions, actions, and overall views of the world. We absorb their energy, feel their soul, which is why it is so important to choose these people wisely.
As human beings, we are constantly changing and evolving. This often affects our relationships with others, and letting go of certain people in our life is sometimes part of that process.
Realizing who to hold on to and who to let go of can be one of the hardest decisions to make. How do you actually let go of someone who has been in your life for so long? Why do you want to let them go in the first place?
The most important question you should ask yourself is this..
”How does this person make me feel?”
If you answered “This person makes me feel good”, then you know that they are worth keeping. This person is capable of lifting your spirits, inspiring you, and making you feel important. It is easy to spend time with them, the connection is genuine, and even if you have a small disagreement, the overall feeling of the relationship is effortless and free.
These are the people that you hold onto. These are the people who you should never take for granted.
If you answered “This person makes me feel bad, insignificant, worthless, sad etc..”, it’s time to let them go.
These are the people who steal your energy and bring you down. Maybe they always think in the negative, constantly complain, gossip, or judge others (including you) in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable. These people are ego-minded and find pleasure in other’s problems. They also tend to want their own “judgment posse” to take part in their ego minded tendency’s.
Never allow anyone to make you feel less than what you are worth, or cause you to stoop to their level of negativity. Take a moment to reflect on the people in your life and realize how you feel after spending time with them. During that process, the answer will be clear.
It is also important to check in with your own heart. If you find yourself surrounded by people who make you feel bad, ask yourself…
“Why am I attracting these types of people into my life? Am I loving myself, or am I making myself a victim?”
There may be something that you are subconsciously, or consciously, telling yourself that attracts this type of person to you. A bad energy vibe, if you will. It is important to understand that your soul needs to be taken care of in all ways, and this includes knowing that you deserve to have good, positive people in your life. Constantly remind yourself that no one can bring you down unless you allow them to, and figure out why you may be giving these toxic people any attention at all. What may be lacking in you?
What we feel is reflected out and back, like a mirror.
If someone feels small, they want to make others feel small. If they hate their hair, they will judge someone with awesome hair. If they don’t make enough money, or mad that their spouse won’t commit, they will gossip about those who drive nice cars with their husband/wives.
Realize that these negative people do have love inside of them, and people don’t tend to consciously put others down unless they are suffering somehow within themselves. This is the ego’s way of coping, and until a person can fix themselves, it is not worth your own suffering on their behalf.
The best way to go about a situation such as this, is to forgive and walk away. Do not allow your own ego take control, causing you to spew hurtful and unnecessary comments. You do not have to inflict pain onto others to get your point across.
Some relationships don’t need a grand finale. They simply have served their purpose, and when the time is right, can quietly slip out the door.
As the year comes to an end, make an effort to surround yourself with people who make you feel good in every way possible.
And for those who you find put out your fire..simply set them free.